Comments on: Ahhh, freakout! http://photocraftbook.wordpress.com/2008/02/12/ahhh-freakout/ Inane Musings from a Self-Professed Weirdo Thu, 10 Dec 2009 15:02:45 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: kelly86000 http://photocraftbook.wordpress.com/2008/02/12/ahhh-freakout/#comment-1321 kelly86000 Tue, 16 Jun 2009 18:18:41 +0000 http://photocraftbook.wordpress.com/?p=345#comment-1321 I know you posted this a while back but I am going to comment anyway. This is Jennifer's little sister by the way. I do sympathize and understand your feelings like Jen said our dad moved away in my case when I ws 10 and I have a hard time talking with him because unlike her I haven't picked up the phopne once a month. I have a four year old and am a single mom now and between house work and ball practice and I jsut don't seem to have the time to breath much less be thoughful. My question is have you takled to them about it? I learned a while back that if something is bothering us but we don't share it then we are asking for it to continue. What I mean by this is we can not expect others to be able to read our minds. Maybe they don't call or visit because you make it easy on them and they have grown to expect that you will call. If you stop then maybe it will hurt their feelings or think you are mad at them for some reason. A precedence has been set and unless you tell them how you feel you can not expect them to know or change. I know you posted this a while back but I am going to comment anyway. This is Jennifer’s little sister by the way. I do sympathize and understand your feelings like Jen said our dad moved away in my case when I ws 10 and I have a hard time talking with him because unlike her I haven’t picked up the phopne once a month. I have a four year old and am a single mom now and between house work and ball practice and I jsut don’t seem to have the time to breath much less be thoughful.

My question is have you takled to them about it? I learned a while back that if something is bothering us but we don’t share it then we are asking for it to continue. What I mean by this is we can not expect others to be able to read our minds. Maybe they don’t call or visit because you make it easy on them and they have grown to expect that you will call. If you stop then maybe it will hurt their feelings or think you are mad at them for some reason.

A precedence has been set and unless you tell them how you feel you can not expect them to know or change.

]]> By: kellilou3 http://photocraftbook.wordpress.com/2008/02/12/ahhh-freakout/#comment-1237 kellilou3 Wed, 13 Feb 2008 14:51:17 +0000 http://photocraftbook.wordpress.com/?p=345#comment-1237 If you have a roommate, and you're always the one to wash both of your dishes, wouldn't you get tired of that? That's kind of how I feel. I don't mind picking up the phone to call, but I guess the root of my concern is WHY they don't feel the need to call and visit more. It's probably a case of me overthinking things, as I tend to do, but I wish they would take 5 minutes out of their week to just call and check in. How hard is that? Sorry if I sound lazy or like a spoiled brat, but I can't help how I feel! If you have a roommate, and you’re always the one to wash both of your dishes, wouldn’t you get tired of that? That’s kind of how I feel. I don’t mind picking up the phone to call, but I guess the root of my concern is WHY they don’t feel the need to call and visit more. It’s probably a case of me overthinking things, as I tend to do, but I wish they would take 5 minutes out of their week to just call and check in. How hard is that? Sorry if I sound lazy or like a spoiled brat, but I can’t help how I feel!

]]> By: tatrd http://photocraftbook.wordpress.com/2008/02/12/ahhh-freakout/#comment-1235 tatrd Tue, 12 Feb 2008 20:19:29 +0000 http://photocraftbook.wordpress.com/?p=345#comment-1235 Thanks to your post title I can't get that song out of my head - thanks a lot! My dad lives quite a long way away from me. It used to really bother me a lot that he never called. It made me feel like he didn't care. My husband has lost both his parents and told me several years ago that one day he'll be gone and I need to make sure I call him at least once a month. I didn't feel I should always have to call him - he's the parent, he should call me. Hubby reminded me that one day, he'll be gone and it shouldn't matter who dials the phone - as long as I talk with him. I realized my dad is just a bad caller and it doesn't mean he doesn't love me. I made myself call him once a month starting a couple years ago. He moved away when I was 13 so it was awkward at first as we didn't really have a whole lot to say. However, after a couple moths, things really got better and now we can talk for an hour non-stop. I know it probably hurts your feelings that they don't make the effort but, in the long run, isn't it more important that you talk and maintain the relationship rather than focusing on who's picking up the phone first? Thanks to your post title I can’t get that song out of my head – thanks a lot!

My dad lives quite a long way away from me. It used to really bother me a lot that he never called. It made me feel like he didn’t care. My husband has lost both his parents and told me several years ago that one day he’ll be gone and I need to make sure I call him at least once a month. I didn’t feel I should always have to call him – he’s the parent, he should call me. Hubby reminded me that one day, he’ll be gone and it shouldn’t matter who dials the phone – as long as I talk with him. I realized my dad is just a bad caller and it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love me. I made myself call him once a month starting a couple years ago. He moved away when I was 13 so it was awkward at first as we didn’t really have a whole lot to say. However, after a couple moths, things really got better and now we can talk for an hour non-stop.

I know it probably hurts your feelings that they don’t make the effort but, in the long run, isn’t it more important that you talk and maintain the relationship rather than focusing on who’s picking up the phone first?

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